self-care is community care (For Harriet)

Reflections, Wellness, Womanhood, Writing

Originally published on For Harriet.

You are enough. Your health, wellness, and sanity are thorough reasons for taking excellent care of yourself. You must know this. We must know this. Even with families, companies, communities – hell, countries – depending on us to always come to the rescue, Black women must resist being absorbed by our various roles and relationships. Audre Lorde said “If I didn’t define myself for myself, I’d be crunched into other people’s fantasies of me and eaten alive.” At this point, we are fighting to define ourselves. Furthermore, we are learning and crafting the tools necessary to examine ourselves – to see our own wounds, and heal them; to recognize our own worth, and honor it. This is the very basis of self-care.

So this affirmation is vital: You are enough.

Still, you are not all.

Taking Back Our Bodies (The Body Temple)

Essays, Reflections, Womanhood, Writing

This piece was originally published on The Body Temple.

Some are hailing the recent movement against sexual assault and harassment as the end of the white male patriarchy as we know it. And some are giving major side-eye.

For Black women, body sovereignty is about so much more than #metoo.

Early Work: “Jenny”

Early Work, Essays, Musings, Reflections, Womanhood, Writing

Originally published on personal blog, Life Is Real, on December 19, 2012.

“Dear God, make me a bird, so I can fly far, far far away from here…”
~Jenny, from Forrest Gump

Jenny was the backdrop to all of Forrest’s adventures. Perhaps she was even the reason for them. She was the one who infused him with the confidence that only friendship can provide; a sweet-faced little alchemist who managed to turn her own abuse into genuine kindness for someone who needed it. The thought of her kept him going through the war, and her letter was the reason he came to sit on that bench in the first place.